"It's about the journey, not the destination"

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You may as well say "Live Laugh Love."

I hate when people let that fly casually like they're quoting a suburban mom $65 wood burned quote sign.

Not just because it's cliché, but because if you repeat these little mantras enough they get burned into your subconscious.

And this one, in my opinion, is wrong.

Out of all the quotes I steal from thought leaders and drugged-out poets, I have one I use frequently that (as far as I know) came from me:

"Nobody gets in their fucking car without setting the GPS"

I know, banger right.

But it's true. And it's something I remind myself of often.

Imagine you're you, 500-something-odd years ago.

Big ass ship. Sailing the sea.

Nothing but some ink on paper to tell you where you're going.

You're in the middle of the ocean, surrounded by nothing but horizon and death.

Do you feel lost?

HELL NO

Because you know where you're going.

Man, if life isn't the exact same.

I've often felt that life is just one giant puzzle that someone handed you the second you were born.

"Solve it, and you're set."

"Do I get any instructions?"

"HA! Good luck, son."

And thankfully, that's what makes this whole living thing worth it.

But it's SO easy to get "lost" -- you can literally go from feeling like you know exactly what you're supposed to be doing -> completely lost in the woods within minutes.

It's a fun game our brain likes to play with us.

But a goal, my friend.

A goal is all you need.

It's your compass. Your map. Your North Star.

If you take the time to truly, truly dig deep into your mind, and drag out whatever goals lay deep inside of it...

If you set your GPS right, not to the place that looks like a nice stop, but the destination you know you're supposed to go...

Then you'll never be lost.

People will try to give you "advice," and you should probably listen to them sometimes.

But it will always, ALWAYS be from a place of bias.

That's human nature.

The successful entrepreneur giving you business advice will tell you to do what worked for THEM, what led THEM to success, because them telling you anything else would FEEL wrong...

Not considering that your idea of "success" might be miles apart from theirs.

The 30-something playboy drowning in women may give you all the dating advice you need, not knowing that you're just looking for a nice lady to settle down with.

Your goal HAS to, HAS TO come from within,

Because you are the only person who will ever come CLOSE to knowing what you want.

And there's a good chance you've been taught (or trained) to stop trusting your gut.

It's wrong. You're young. What do you know?

But remember that it's all subjective.

We see two different shades of blue.

Your goals and my goals couldn't be further apart.

Which is why as much as I love to yap, as much as I love to try and save you from the years of thinking that I'd never subject even my worse enemies to,

I'll NEVER try to give you "advice."

Except for this:

Take some time before the end of the year to get clear on your goals.

I don't mean watch some motivational Youtube videos and "journal"...

I mean fuck off for a few days, completely detatch from people (you can do it, I promise)...

And genuinely have a heart-to-heart about what you want.

Then write it on a sticky note, duct tape it in front of your computer monitor,

And remember where you're headed whenever you feel lost.

- RL